The reason…

“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.” 

Marcel Pagnol

3 thoughts on “The reason…

  1. I wonder if always seeing the past as better than it was is related to not being able to remember pain as bad as it was. We remember the good things much more clearly than the bad things. As for today, likewise, not being happy can be equated with a form of pain. Besides, it’s impossible to be happy, even though we always ask. One can be happy with things and situations and circumstances, but can one be just happy? Only if everything else is happy. As for the future, it’s an unknown but one can be happy with its potential or not.

    Actually, the future is the one thing we do have some control over. And I mean future in the most literal sense, from the next moment on.

  2. I think also people are way too good at picturing alternate universes, just like this one but changed so slightly so this current condition (being stuck in traffic or whatever) is better. (Also we tend to attribute intentionality everywhere, so we end up taking traffic personally, somehow.)

    • That’s your perception is your individual reality. Do we subconsciously edit events to make them fit our perceptions? And yes, we take things personally. It’s difficult not to because whatever it is is happening to us, even if it really isn’t.

      Take traffic. Do you notice how often you get stuck in slow traffic when you’re in a hurry? Of course we never think about the traffic when we’ve got all the time in the world. We would probably feel better, I hesitate to say happier, if we looked at the world as happening, but not to us personally. While it feels like the universe is out to get us, it’s not really. On the other hand, if you create your own reality, then maybe it is.

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